As we get older, we acquire more wisdom, right? (cough cough). However, while some women wish to recreate their youth by dressing like their granddaughter, others go the opposite way and start dressing like their grandmother. Would you agree that neither is advisable?
I have something to say today which you may not want to hear. You may get longer in the tooth but inside your head, you are still rocking your twenties. Yes, babeeeey! (Wink). I understand this completely. I am there with you, in the category of the, ahem, over 40.
Nevertheless, as your French Chic mentor, it is my job to advise you to come back down to earth and face reality. All is not bad, as you will see but I'll give you a few home truths.
Today, we'll look at mutton dressed as lamb or dressing too young for your age. Many of you will shudder I'm sure about looking overtly sexy. Do we even know if this is for the sake of finding a mate or for an affirmation of our womanhood? Looking sexy should not have the importance it has when we are in our teens or early 20s, when we're still unsure about our place in the world. In our forties and upwards, do we still feel the need to push our sexuality to the forefront of who we are? Is this the identity that we seek? Shouldn't we have the wisdom necessary to know that's what youth is for?
I say let's leave overt sexiness to younger women. We've had our time. It's now theirs. We are still 'young' of course, but not extremely so, if we're honest. For us now, it's our turn to look fabulous, but with our clothes ON.
Getting older doesn't have to mean wearing long black sacks and be invisible. Far from it. Chic and elegance look extremely good on older women. I think of it as quality over quantity.
Many think they need to overhaul their entire wardrobe. You don't have to go this far. A few minor updates is all you need.
So, what can you do to look chic and elegant in your, most wonderful, prime?
NB: This advice may not be applicable to you in its entirety yet. Just pick and choose what is more suited for your age.
Your skin may be showing that you are no longer in your twenties. This change is subtle, but it is happening: something to do with hormones, collagen and bladibla. The skin around your cleavage may have some sun damage and may show vertical lines. Bring up your neckline up a little bit. Avoid wearing a deeply-low cut decolletage all the way down to your navel. Think Coco Chanel, not Donatella Versace.
2/ Bingo Wings
If your triceps are lacking muscle tone, you may wish to avoid showing them off. and cover them up. Maybe it's time to dust off those dumb-bells you've been using as paperweights.
Avoiding spaghetti straps may be the quick answer for you right now. You see? Nothing too drastic.
If you have a saggy or flat bottom and thighs with cellulite, then stay away from super-tight pencil skirts that will showcase this even more. Stop wearing trousers in fabrics that make it worse, i.e. soft jersey. Go for thicker, 'kinder' fabric that will uplift you instead of drag your features down. I told you, all is not lost. You will look superb.
4/ Micro & Mini
Leaving something to the imagination is the name of the game in French Chic and elegance, even more so if you are no longer a spring chicken. Choosing to wear cropped tops, micro shorts and mini skirts, gowns with slits up to your knickers after forty? Be strong! say Non! After forty, you can no longer be excused by the 'insouciance' of youth. You and I know better.
PS: If you still have these items in your wardrobe, it's high time to declutter them, my lovely.
Make subtle changes to your style. Nothing too extreme, mind you. You don't want to be a 20-year old pin-up on Monday and Mrs Doubtfire on Tuesday.
Bring the hem of your dresses or skirts down a bit. Knee-length, which is above, at or just below the knees, suits women of every shape, age and size. Please don't go below this length, unless you wear high heels, or you may look frumpy, whether in kitten heels or ballet pumps. I know this is unfair, ma chère but ageing is an unfair process, especially so for women.
PS: This advice does not apply to long summer or evening dresses, of course.
I mention it at every turn but it's worth its weight in gold, choose quality over quantity. Whether in clothes, jewellery, footwear, lingerie or other accessories. Never more so in our wonderful maturity.
If you feel that your time as a beautiful woman is over, think again. You are beautiful. You are uniquely you. This is only your mindset rearing its ugly head. And do we do ugly? Non! The problem lies in your negative self-talk, that keeps telling you: "you are old, you are over the hill, it's all over for you". No, it is certainly not over for you. I believe in you so please believe in yourself.
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I'm Marie-Anne Lecoeur. I teach women how to upgrade their style and think, shop & dress like a French woman in my Ecourses and The French Chic Academy
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