According to the Mental Health Foundation UK, “Every year millions of people make resolutions yet almost 80% of us fail to achieve them.”
This is a high percentage of people who do not achieve their chosen goal! Most of us run
out of steam and willpower before we have hardly started working on our resolutions. By the end of March, most of us will have given up entirely. By December, our New year’s resolutions will be just a distant memory and our goals will remain only wishes.
Are you one of those people who make New Year resolutions but never see them achieved?
Do you always give up after a few weeks or months?
Would you like to know what you could do differently this year?
So what can we do to make our resolutions a reality, an achievement? I have found that 6 simple steps are usually all that are needed to take our resolutions, or goals, to fruition. Let's have a look at them and discover what we could do to reach our goals by the end of next year.
1/ Pick one
If you are anything like me and many other people out there, you will have many resolutions or goals you want to achieve next year. You may have already made a long list.
Your resolutions can vary between wanting to lose weight, getting fit to run a marathon, becoming a cordon bleu cook, saving money, learning another language, redecorating your entire house or even writing a novel.
Of course, all these resolutions have merit, but you will notice that each one will need a lot of work and man hours to achieve. Some may not be achievable in one year even if you worked at it full-time. Having one huge resolution may be too big a goal to reach, but having many of them at once will be even more so. You will surely be setting yourself up for failure.
So choose one main goal that you want to achieve by the end of the year, not two or three. More than one main goal will be too difficult to achieve as we will have too many tasks to do over the next twelve months on top of our already busy life. By choosing only one main resolution, we will be putting all our resources on to this one. Also, avoid being vague. Be precise so that you will know when the resolution has been fulfilled. Choosing one precise goal will give you more chances to see it to completion.
2/ Small chunks
Right, so you have picked your main resolution. That's great but, subconsciously, this goal may still seem like an impossible target for you to reach. So, the next thing to do for results is to break this large goal down into small, manageable chunks. Each of these has to be achievable, so as not to seem overwhelming. We are more likely to start a project if we think that we can do it, so by chunking our main goal into smaller tasks, the task will seem easier to us. Each small step will lead you towards your main goal, in time.
3/ It's a date!
Any goal that is vague and too large is unlikely to make it to completion. This is why you have broken your goals down into manageable chunks, such as daily, weekly or monthly small tasks. Now give each small chunk a date by which you want it achieved. Write down that date into your calendar or diary, whichever date fits your main goal the best. By giving it a finishing date, you are more likely to see each task to completion than if it is just a vague period of time.
Try not to get discouraged. Remember that we are all in the same boat and lose steam at some stage. The way to reach your goal is to recognize this and not beat yourself up about it. Put yourself back on track and carry on. Remember, one step at a time. Rome was not built in a day. As long as you reach one of your small goals regularly, you will reach your main goal eventually.
when you complete your goals (large or small), be sure to reward yourself. It does not matter what the reward will be, as long as it makes you happy at the time. Rewards keep you motivated to carry on your journey towards your goal.
To give yourself further encouragement when you need it, look back to all the small goals that have been reached. They are all achievements, however small they are. Give yourself a pat on the back. Sometimes we get discouraged with how far there is to go before our target, yet we forget how far we have come. Please keep in touch and let me know what your resolution is and how you’re doing. If you need any help or encouragement, I will be glad to help you.
So I will close by wishing you all a Happy New Year 2014!
May all your wishes of love, health, peace and happiness come true
And may your resolutions, big and small, get achieved by the end of 2014!
Originally published on 28/12/13
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